– Written by Anne Loosveld –
As the daughter of an oncologist and an occupational physician, the dinner table conversations of my youth were mostly about very sensible things.
“Sensible” to us meant mostly: reasonable. Rational.
When you say something, you have to be able to prove it. And arguments based on emotion or gut feelings often didn’t last long.
In my student days, the immersion in the academic world was therefore fairly familiar territory.
But in the excel sheets, annual accounts and double-blind studies of my studies in business economics and sport psychology, I gradually began to feel a lack.
I longed for in-depth conversations, for fiery human emotion, for the feeling of really living.
And for this I had to look for what else existed, beyond the familiar world of reason.
”I gave myself an experimentation budget for spirituality, a kind of jar for floating things.”
I went to an auraleader, did full moon hypnosis and had my chakras aligned.
It felt like developing a new side of myself – and at the same time forbidden territory.
I had been raised so “head over heels,” with scientific evidence as the only truth. I could already hear my parents’ voice: “Euh, what are you going to do?”
But I found it fascinating. I happily continued experimenting with my pot of swagger and in the meantime completed my master’s degree in sports psychology.
I saw and felt how far apart these worlds are.
Now, years later, I also see precisely what connects these two worlds.
In my coaching practice, in which I train riders in their mental skills, I see on the one hand the value of validated, researched, correct methods.
But I also see that every person is different and responds differently to both challenges and solutions.
If your main goal is to help people take concrete steps forward, you sometimes have to look beyond the theory and find the method that works best for them.
How our brain works
The basis for me as a coach is always science, because I know the value of proven techniques such as goal setting, visualization, breathing and cognitive behavioral therapy.
But especially when it comes to themes such as uncertainty and limiting thoughts, I also see the value of occasionally sprinkling some golden glitter of spirituality.
The reality is that our brain is simply an incredibly complex machine, and we often have less control over it than we think.
If your driving is not as good as it should be, you can stay awake for nights on end.
Not because the event itself is so bad, but because there is a little voice in your ear telling you that you will never learn, that you are a loser, and that your horse deserves better than what you can give him.
Those negative thoughts, which – as anyone who has ever spent a night worrying knows – can color your entire reality, come from the subconscious part of our brain.
We often think that we make conscious choices, but actually the opposite is true.
”The subconscious part determines almost everything: what we do, what we say, how we behave and what we can and cannot do.”
If you suffer a lot from nerves, insecurity or doubts in driving, it is wise to examine what negative beliefs you have about yourself.
To then be able to release or reverse these beliefs you need to be in the subconscious part of the brain.
I see that when I combine in my coaching between regular sports psychology and more alternative techniques, the results after three months are huge.
Both techniques help to work through negative beliefs in the subconscious part of the brain.
I am regularly amazed by the results of these techniques, and I would never want to work without them again.
”The combination between science and golden glitter is pure magic.”